I understand when I see people struggle with getting out of a bad past, but here's the truth: Our parents may have given us the genes, but God gives us the grace. His grace is sufficient for each day. Whatever it is you're struggling, the first step to take is to forgive; forgive yourself, then get up and move on regardless how slow and how many falls you have to encounter along the way.  It's good to have a view of the destination, but it's not as important as the steps you take each day. Life's ultimate destination is for our soul to be secured. Jesus has provided for that already; He died that we may live eternally. With Him. So start right now---forgive yourself, then forgive those who have wronged you. Then ask yourself this vital question: Have you accepted the forgiveness that God has provided for you, through His son Jesus. If you are to live, forgive and live forgiven.